A quick and dirty replacer of the heteronormative perks.
Lady Killer -> Cherchez la Femme (only selectable by women)
Black Widow -> Confirmed Bachelor (only selectable by men)

Not fully tested, literally just a gender swap.
The icons are wrong, but will be updated when I work out how.

I don't know how to add them side-by-side, so it's one or the other at the moment. Sorry, bi wastelanders.

No idea how to change your spouse's gender yet. Hopefully another modder will work that one out. Swapping your own gender seems to work well, using the sexchange console command.